Earlier in 2019, we talked about ‘Do New year Resolutions Work?’ So many people have a reason why they make New Year resolution and most people often fall short of the resolutions they wrote down. In a bid to ensure that they stick to the resolution, they try hard on themselves and end up not adhering to any of the resolutions and they keep making the same resolutions annually.
At the end of first half of 2019, we talked about reviewing your new year resolution, questions that came up include; have you made any positive impact this year? and have you been able to achieve anything from your New Year resolution that you made earlier this year? Were you able to review your New Year resolutions and were you able to make amendments where necessary?
This is the end of 2019, first thing you need to do is to appreciate God for keeping you alive throughout the whole year, He protected you from all forms of accidents and evils; the ones you know and the ones you didn’t know, He protected you from them all.
We’re talking about evaluating your New Year resolution, but before you evaluate, remember that there were others that you started the year 2019 together, but they couldn’t make it to the end, let alone to see year 2020, many of them also made New Year resolution, but it died with them.
While you are evaluating your new year resolution, do not be too hard on yourself, do not blame yourself, never have any regrets, do not beat up yourself for things you never achieved, do not compare yourself with others who were able to achieve their New Year resolutions in 2019.
You are you and not another person, you have your life to live, you can’t live another person’s life for them, they can’ live their lives for you, you are who you are and your time is different from theirs.
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Two of you might have made the same New Year resolution and the other person was able to achieve his while yours had a setback due to one reason or the other,
Let’s Take a review of some New Year resolutions that people made earlier in 2019 which include: weight loss, exercise programs, quitting smoking or drinking, quitting womanizing, leaving a trade while others make a life-changing decision, quitting a bad habit.
Some others decided to form a habit of giving, donating to the poor, spend frugally, enjoy life, improve finances, think positive, laugh more and often, get out of debt, save more, get a better job, make small investments, improve career, establish own business.
Others decided to improve at their career, improve academics with better grades, read more books, become more organized, improve social skills, make new friends, pray more among other things.
Some other New Year new resolutions are: I am in charge this year, so I have to take charge, focusing less on the past and focusing on the future, letting go of what is holding you back and moving on, don’t sacrifice your freedom, don’t compare yourself to others.
To evaluate your New Year resolution, you need to bring it out wherever you’ve written it, put ‘√’mark on the ones that you’ve been able to achieve and put ‘X’ mark on the one that you’ve not been able to achieve.
If you have so much that you have achieved, you can proceed to carry over the rest to 2020 New Year resolution list, but if you have so much that you’ve not been able to achieve, you shouldn’t beat up yourself for failing, you have not failed, but you need to put more effort to be able to achieve it this new year.
Before you write new ‘New Year resolution’, make sure you list the old ones first as a goal to be achieved, then you can now set the new ‘New Year Resolution’.
For some people that may have goals unaccomplished, evaluating your New Year resolutions can be a painful affair. A resolution review is just a stark reminder of how little one has achieved. While evaluating these resolutions, one may feel guilty and disappointed about ones lack discipline to follow through on one’s goals.
These steps will help you to evaluate your New Year Resolutions
Stop beating yourself up! Most literature on personal development tells us to set goals and go out to achieve them. Nobody informs us to set objectives, leave them there and forget about them. As such, the mentality of people setting goals is that they have to achieve the goals or they have failed. The resulting emotions are guilt, disappointment, and a sense of failure when we don’t accomplish our objectives. As such, turning into a stressful affair is natural for resolution evaluation. There are many reasons why you are not achieving your objectives, and they are not all due to your individual weakness.
Don’t make too many big resolutions: It’s simple for us to get distracted in this world full of possibilities. On the spur of the time, you might have laid too many resolutions and ended up with a lengthy list for the year. How much time and attention can you feasibly commit to each with so many objectives to be achieved? If you stretch yourself too thin, then when you have worked so hard and accomplished so little, you will only stress yourself and become more disappointed. I think it’s realistic to have for the whole year only two to three significant resolutions and fewer than ten minor ones. Any project that may take months to finish is a significant resolution.
Do you really want that resolution? The next issue you have to ask yourself is if you really want this resolution to be achieved. What does it mean to you to achieve this resolution? How is this going to create you feel? Successful individuals are successful because at one moment they concentrate on a tiny amount of significant objectives and worked very hard to accomplish the outcomes they wanted. If the next big-hit sensational opportunity or passing fad easily distracts them, then they would not have achieved the same level of success.
Wrong place, wrong time. What if you’re focused and still don’t achieve your objectives? Look at the conditions in which you are. External aspects, other than hard work, also play a role in your achievement. If you operate in an setting that is not in favor of your resolutions, then you will have less opportunity to do so. Do you have access to the relevant knowledge, abilities and experiences to reach your resolutions? If you can’t reply “yes” to at least one of these issues, and preferably all of them, simply put, you’re at the wrong place at the wrong time.
Connect the dots. Make sure you don’t view reviewing your resolution as a test where you either pass or fail. Use the resolution review as a self-discovery exercise to know yourself better. As highlighted in earlier points, there are many reasons why you don’t achieve your resolutions and not all of them are about your failings as an individual. For those goals that you achieve, how did you manage to achieve them? Ask the same questions for those you didn’t achieve. Over time, you can see a trend in the things that you achieve, and the things that you always seem to miss. Maybe it’s not important enough, or you’re not in an environment conducive to this goal. Evaluating your resolutions allows you to connect the dots, which in turn, allows you to look forward with more self-knowledge and confidence.
Drop irrelevant goals. Once you are able to connect the dots, you will start to see that some goals are just not meant to be on your list after all. It’s not because you are not disciplined enough to follow through or that you are a failure; it’s just not meant to be. You don’t have to feel bad about it, you are here for a different reason. There is certainly something else greater which is meant for you. By dropping unsuitable and irrelevant goals, you can focus on the more important ones relevant to you. So feel free to drop resolutions that don’t worth it.
When you are done evaluating, make sure you get the previous resolutions straight first before setting up 2020 resolution.
God will grant you the strength to be able to achieve your resolutions in Jesus Name. Happy New year to you all.