Fear, The Dark Room for Negative Thinking

I have always been afraid of so many things; afraid of going out alone to urinate at night, afraid of the shadows, afraid of failing a simple task, afraid of disappointing my loved ones, afraid of the future, afraid of the outcome of my mistakes, afraid of failing my examinations, afraid of people death, afraid of making bad impressions on people. I am afraid of everything and nothing.

Like me, everyone has their own fears. You have yours, he has him, she has hers, I have mine. Often times, our inboxes are filled with messages like, “FEAR is; “ False Evidence Appearing Real”, “Face Everything And Rise” and “ Forget Everything And Run” All these messages only point to the fact that we cannot overcome our fears if we do not deal with those things that scare the hell out of us.

While some fears might be healthy, others are not. Fear of failure might push you to work hard not to fail at a particular task. According to Michael Pritchard, fear is the darkroom for negative thinking. A negative in photography is “a negative is an image, usually on a strip or sheet of transparent plastic film, in which the lightest areas of the photographed subject appear darkest and the darkest areas appear lightest.

This reversed order occurs because the extremely light-sensitive chemicals a camera film must use to capture an image quickly enough for ordinary picture-taking are darkened, rather than bleached, by exposure to light and subsequent photographic processing”. (Wikipedia)

In essence, we get our pictures when negatives are developed. The picture you get however, depends on the light absorbed by the negatives. The pictures we take will determine what photograph we will develop. If we took images of anger, sadness, brokenness, and other negative pictures, that’s why we will get.

But if we take pictures of joy, happiness, and other inspiring scenes, then we will definitely get joyful and inspiring photographs. Fear is therefore a choice, what we chose to focus on is what matters most. If you focus on the negative you get that, if you focus on the positive you get that as well. Thus it is what you feed your mind that it gives you too. If you feed it with the right things, you will definitely get more positive replies than negative.

Fear cannot be squashed, it doesn’t disappear to thin air. You just have to deal with it head-on. Find the reasons why you are scared of those things that scare you. Tackle it from the root. If you are afraid of speaking in public, try to join organizations that will project you and train you to speak a lot.

Nothing big, just start within your circle. If you are afraid of the dark,  sleep with your lights on. If you are afraid of failure in examinations, spend more time with your books, ask questions, learn from friends, go for tutorial classes.

If you are afraid of disappointing your people, work hard not to. If you are afraid of not achieving your goals, plan well. You can divide your plans into day to day projects, or weekly as you dim fit. Then evaluate how far you have gone at the end of the month. Once you focus on achieving your goals and take the first steps towards actually doing that, you slowly start to conquer those fears.

It does not mean that you have killed that fear, no, it actually requires more effort than that. It requires consistency most importantly. Consistently following your goals and working on that plan to achieve them. Only when you have successfully done this you can say you killed that fear.

Fear rubs you of your peace of mind. Fear shrinks you down. Fear stops you from doing more, from being better. Rise above your fears, face them and conquer. It’s still a new year. Do not allow fear to stop you from achieving your goals. Deal with your fear. Instead of feeding your fears the powers to tie you down, starve it and let it die. Do not dwell on how afraid you are to take a bold step.

Rather, dwell on the benefits of taking those huge steps and let it inspire you.  Let your fears push you. See it as a stone you should step on to lift your feet higher to the skies.

Again, Happy New Year. Don’t fail to plan, for as they say, he who fails to plan, plans to fail.

Remember none of us is leaving here alive.

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