Setting A Standard

I’m here wonderingSetting A Standard
I’m here wondering what life would be like if all of us are the same. I mean, we ate different individuals but we alike in every other aspect. Everyone is tall, have round face, have a pointed nose, have small lips, have sexy eyes. Imagine if we all like ofe egusi, there will definitely be no need for Ofe Oha, Ofe Onugbu, Ofe ogbono, Ofe nsala, and the rest. Imagine if we all love jollof rice, there will be no stew or ofe akwu. Imagine if we all like one profession, then the others won’t be existing. Imagine if we all like to wear the same clothes…. Then life will definitely be boring. There will be no spice to add to it, no different opinion to spark an argument, in fact communication will be zero since we will all agree on the same thing.
There will be no rich, no poor. Everyone will be happy. Everyone will be sad. There will be no room for choice.
What did they say that variety is the spice of life. I guess the creator understood this too, that is why he created every human in a distinct, unique way. There is no one like you in this world. You are you and everyone is themselves. You may look alike with people you are related with by blood but there will be a difference. Even identical twins have something unique about them; facially, mode of dressing, voice…
Because we all are created differently and unique, we want different things. Some like Jellof rice, others like white rice and stew. Some like egusi soup, another likes nsala soup and the rest. Some want to be Doctors, others want to be Teachers, Scientists, Lawyers,
I think this is what makes life beautiful; our ability to have a choice, our ability to make choices, our differences. We all set different standards for ourselves. Setting a standard means “to decide what the standard is going to be”. It’s like setting the rules for something. It is a level you decide that something is going to be. You could set standards as a leader of a group or on a personal term.
We have high and low standards. But that’s not what I want to talk about. I want to talk about setting a standard for yourself personally. People set standards on a lot of things; academics, career, finance, life partner amongst others.
You could say that you want to get your Master’s degree less than three years after your first degree. You can say that you want to save a certain amount of your salary for emergencies. You may say that you won’t marry a spouse who have no work.
There is nothing wrong with setting goals. It’s your choice. What I have a problem with is forcing people to come down or climb high to your own standards. Allow people to set their own standards if you can’t meet up with it then find someone who has a lower standard. If a girl says she can’t marry a man who is not rich, allow her, it’s her choice. If you can’t meet up to her standards then find another. If a guy says he can’t marry a girl that has no work, don’t call him lazy. It’s his choice. If you can’t meet up with it then find someone else. If I say that I can’t marry a man who cannot cook or is willing to learn, don’t ask me what I will be doing while he is cooking. It’s my choice, make yours.
Life is simple. Set your standards, live by it but don’t shove it down someone’s throat. Don’t force someone to come down to your own standards too. We are different, we are unique. Live your best life and allow others live theirs. It’s a win win.
Remember, none of us is leaving here alive! what life would be like if all of us are the same. I mean, we ate different individuals but we alike in every other aspect. Everyone is tall, have round face, have a pointed nose, have small lips, have sexy eyes. Imagine if we all like ofe egusi, there will definitely be no need for Ofe Oha, Ofe Onugbu, Ofe ogbono, Ofe nsala, and the rest. Imagine if we all love jollof rice, there will be no stew or ofe akwu. Imagine if we all like one profession, then the others won’t be existing. Imagine if we all like to wear the same clothes…. Then life will definitely be boring. There will be no spice to add to it, no different opinion to spark an argument, in fact communication will be zero since we will all agree on the same thing.
There will be no rich, no poor. Everyone will be happy. Everyone will be sad. There will be no room for choice.
What did they say that variety is the spice of life. I guess the creator understood this too, that is why he created every human in a distinct, unique way. There is no one like you in this world. You are you and everyone is themselves. You may look alike with people you are related with by blood but there will be a difference. Even identical twins have something unique about them; facially, mode of dressing, voice…
Because we all are created differently and unique, we want different things. Some like Jellof rice, others like white rice and stew. Some like egusi soup, another likes nsala soup and the rest. Some want to be Doctors, others want to be Teachers, Scientists, Lawyers,
I think this is what makes life beautiful; our ability to have a choice, our ability to make choices, our differences. We all set different standards for ourselves. Setting a standard means “to decide what the standard is going to be”. It’s like setting the rules for something. It is a level you decide that something is going to be. You could set standards as a leader of a group or on a personal term.
We have high and low standards. But that’s not what I want to talk about. I want to talk about setting a standard for yourself personally. People set standards on a lot of things; academics, career, finance, life partner amongst others.
You could say that you want to get your Master’s degree less than three years after your first degree. You can say that you want to save a certain amount of your salary for emergencies. You may say that you won’t marry a spouse who have no work.
There is nothing wrong with setting goals. It’s your choice. What I have a problem with is forcing people to come down or climb high to your own standards. Allow people to set their own standards if you can’t meet up with it then find someone who has a lower standard. If a girl says she can’t marry a man who is not rich, allow her, it’s her choice. If you can’t meet up to her standards then find another. If a guy says he can’t marry a girl that has no work, don’t call him lazy. It’s his choice. If you can’t meet up with it then find someone else. If I say that I can’t marry a man who cannot cook or is willing to learn, don’t ask me what I will be doing while he is cooking. It’s my choice, make yours.
Life is simple. Set your standards, live by it but don’t shove it down someone’s throat. Don’t force someone to come down to your own standards too. We are different, we are unique. Live your best life and allow others live theirs. It’s a win win.
Remember, none of us is leaving here alive!

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